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Minimal simple exercise to lose the pounds

I am clearly not the person to give advise. I cannot tell you what to do but I'll tell you what I did. Here's a back story. I had birth my children when I was still young. I was skinny and it made me conscious because I don't look like a mother instead I look like an older sister to my children- and it's not flattering. Teachers, Social workers and Doctors doesn't seemed to trust my own children with me because I look like a kid myself. So I piled on weight. At the same time my divorce was finalized and I was free. I was also started on medication. After a few months I had gained 20 kg and I became overweight. I intended for a little weight gain but not being obese. I look at the mirror and I was devastated. Over the years, in my twenties I battled weight gained and depleting confidence. Then the pandemic came. It was during the fasting month of Ramadhan that I started working out after breaking my fast. I lost only two kilos. Then when the lock down was slowly redu...
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Acknowledging past trauma


Traumas are different and unique to each individual.

You have to reflect on what your triggers are.

Only then you can narrow down on why you

have these triggers.


When you know the what and understand the why,

you can link it back to past memories, situations and events

that leads to the trauma.

Remembering and listing down the exact trauma is 

difficult and requires a lot of patience dealing with

emotions.


But truly, by doing these steps, you are not reliving the past 

rather you are confronting your very fears.

It requires putting your emotions into perspective.

It is an act of courage and bravery in itself.

If you are able to remember how it feels like during the difficult times,

surely you have put up a high defence wall in order to cope.


Trust the process and healing takes time.

Once you understood what causes the pain, you can take steps in

preventing yourself from similar situations in the future.

This will allow you to detach yourself from circling

in the same situations that you feel you cannot get away from.

Certain situations may need your acceptance- like child

custody issues.


But surely, there are plenty of workarounds to every unique

situations and circumstances.


~ Healing can only start, when you are able to confront your fears.~

@chirpbirdee






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