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Minimal simple exercise to lose the pounds

I am clearly not the person to give advise. I cannot tell you what to do but I'll tell you what I did. Here's a back story. I had birth my children when I was still young. I was skinny and it made me conscious because I don't look like a mother instead I look like an older sister to my children- and it's not flattering. Teachers, Social workers and Doctors doesn't seemed to trust my own children with me because I look like a kid myself. So I piled on weight. At the same time my divorce was finalized and I was free. I was also started on medication. After a few months I had gained 20 kg and I became overweight. I intended for a little weight gain but not being obese. I look at the mirror and I was devastated. Over the years, in my twenties I battled weight gained and depleting confidence. Then the pandemic came. It was during the fasting month of Ramadhan that I started working out after breaking my fast. I lost only two kilos. Then when the lock down was slowly redu...

Setting boundaries



Setting healthy boundaries is essential for maintaining emotional, mental, and physical well-being. 

Here are 10 types of boundaries you should consider having with others:

Emotional Boundaries: Protect your emotional energy by limiting how much you share or absorb from others. Don’t allow others to guilt or manipulate you into feeling responsible for their emotions.

Physical Boundaries: Define your comfort levels regarding physical touch and personal space. You have the right to say no to unwanted physical contact.

Time Boundaries: Value your time by setting limits on how much you give to others, whether at work, with friends, or in relationships. It's okay to decline requests if it encroaches on your personal time.


Mental Boundaries: Protect your beliefs, thoughts, and opinions. You don’t have to agree with others or be pressured into thinking the way they do. Mental boundaries also include protecting your mental health from toxic conversations or influences.


Material Boundaries: Set clear rules on how you allow others to use or borrow your personal belongings. It's okay to say no to sharing if you feel uncomfortable.


Sexual Boundaries: Clearly communicate your comfort level in intimate situations. Consent and mutual agreement should always be prioritized.


Digital Boundaries: Decide how and when you engage with others online. This includes limiting how much time you spend on social media, how you manage notifications, or what you share publicly.


Conversational Boundaries: Be firm about topics you’re not comfortable discussing, whether with family, friends, or coworkers. It's okay to steer conversations away from triggering or inappropriate subjects.


Workplace Boundaries: Maintain professional boundaries by not allowing work to overtake your personal life. Be clear about your work hours, roles, and expectations to avoid burnout.


Relational Boundaries: Establish limits on how much emotional labor or time you give in relationships, especially if they're one-sided. Respect and mutual care are key, and you don’t have to carry all the weight.Setting and enforcing boundaries is an act of self-respect and self-care, ensuring that your needs are met and that others treat you with the respect you deserve.


~Speak your values and you will 
communicate your respect.~
@chirpbirdee




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