ChirpBirdee

I am clearly not the person to give advise. I cannot tell you what to do but I'll tell you what I did. Here's a back story. I had birth my children when I was still young. I was skinny and it made me conscious because I don't look like a mother instead I look like an older sister to my children- and it's not flattering. Teachers, Social workers and Doctors doesn't seemed to trust my own children with me because I look like a kid myself. So I piled on weight. At the same time my divorce was finalized and I was free. I was also started on medication. After a few months I had gained 20 kg and I became overweight. I intended for a little weight gain but not being obese. I look at the mirror and I was devastated. Over the years, in my twenties I battled weight gained and depleting confidence. Then the pandemic came. It was during the fasting month of Ramadhan that I started working out after breaking my fast. I lost only two kilos. Then when the lock down was slowly redu...

  Have you seen the men and women donning black t-shirts or white plain tees, pairing them with denim jeans or another boring pants? Have you seen women wearing plain black or navy A-line or midi dresses? They look good and simple, pleasing to the eyes. When I first chance upon minimalism, the simplicity caught my eyes. It was easy for me to dress like that or so I thought. What could go wrong with black, navy or white? I thought well, if I wear black, stains will be invisible. It doesn't fade easily and so it must be value for money. If I wear my clothes loose, it will fit no matter how my weight fluctuates. I started to rid of stained or faded clothes and slowly replacing them with black or navy clothing. One day as I hang my laundry. It was all black. No wonder I've been referred to as the witch in the neighborhood. I never meant it like that. It looks sad actually and dreadful. As the months passed, I rid of more faded clothing but this time replacing them with big colorful...