Mindfulness: Managing Your Chaos

Part 1 of a 10 Part Series.

What is chaos to you?

Chaos to me sounds like clapping thunder ringing in my brain. You can see everyday chaos- people hurrying in the streets, jam packed trains and buses. Cars buzzing down the street.

Invisible chaos? It's in your head. It's how you feel.

The never ending dread, a heavy heart and a forced smile.

Why everything feels like chaos?

The lightning fast pace of time, never ending work load and chores. You never seemed to feel at ease or at peace.

Dive deeper.

Does chaos manifest a long time ago? When you are a child with traumatic experiences?

Or does it began in your teens, while you party as hard as you hit the books?

Did something happened in your life that you cannot change?

Did you give into something that you are not supposed to?

Drama. Trauma. Dismissed. Embarrassed. Abused. Isolated.

Lost your voice? Can't speak your truth?

What can you do about it now?

You can give in and succumb to that bad experience and give up on life.

Or you can be the hero of your own story and rise up from the dirt.

What is that anger? Or have you feel nothing anymore?

You've numb the pain for so long, you don't even remember why it makes you cry anymore.

That's it. It's been long ago. It's not happening right now.

You've dealt with it and you've survived.

So move forward now. Be that survivor, your own hero.

You can't changed the bad experience. You can't forget it.

But you can control how you feel about it.

You can relearn to be happy again. New experiences that makes you feel good.

Learn to smile.

Laugh out loud again. Relax and be at ease.

Replace the bad feelings with feel good ones. It's kindness to yourself.

Have you seen your room lately?

Has it turned into a chaotic chore? Does it mimic how you feel inside?

Out of control?

Change. Change is a choice.

If you do nothing, you are choosing the chaos.

I can't tell you what to do that can make you happy again.

So go out. Do something new. Go to new places.

Gain new experiences. Meet new people.

Once you do something different, only then you'll notice what you like again.

And when you've figure what you like, learn to smile.

Look at the world in a positive light.

Once you've found joy, you'll never lose it again.

You'll always remember your joy. You'll find it again and again.

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This is a light- hearted take on life, not an in-depth discussion, and certainly it's not meant to ridicule other people's perspective. I've come out from the deepest end in life and I know what it feels like to be in bad situations.

Read my blog post, where I share my personal story and decide to be my own hero.

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