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Mindfulness: Finding Your Voice


Part 5 of a 10 Part Series. 

My mind tripped while attempting to write this.

Finding your voice in the digital world is like talking out loud but no one is listening. There are common digital spaces where you can have common conversations and shared ideas but among so many comments, how do you validate yourself?

But who cares about the digital world. You can create a whole new persona of yourself to present to the world. Ultimately, it's just you playing pretend.

We live in the real world. If someone likes you, great. If they don't, you don't care but of course, you'll start wondering- why not?

At times, you 'll even hate yourself. Why then would people even like you?

You are, who you are and in life you'll juggle a lot of responsibilities. You are a child, a parent, a student, a hard ass worker- you are all of that. But it doesn't define who you are. You are not your responsibilities and roles. I fall into this trap and at one time my only identity was being a fun mom.

But now, I understand that you are who you are to a person is based on how they are and how they speak to you. Different people know you differently. It's not like you are pretending, it's just a natural response.

But even so, we all have our personalities and that's what makes us unique.

To long time friends of mine, they call me the "Miss Planner". I love planning because I hate wasting time. I don't and I refuse to deal with time wasters. I'll have a plan, a back up plan and another back up plan to my back up plan. Even so, I'm very spontaneous. If a friend stop by my house uninformed and just say- hey, let's have dinner, I'll get ready and we'll go have dinner. Because I know my friends would always have something in their minds or have something to share.

To my kids, I am just talkative and naggy. I'm still the fun mom. They trust me with some (only some) deep secrets they have. If my daughter says she wants to go clubbing, I'll be like- okay, but remember don't leave your drinks unattended, you'll never know if somebody might spike your drinks, or if my daughters said they are going on dates, I'll be like- hey, remember to have some cash for taxi ride home, just in case you need to run off if you get into trouble.

My kids know me as the fun mom- the one who'll play soccer, the one who'll run up and down the playground with them, the one who rides bicycle with them, the one who'll play badminton and play the guitar. I'll take them for a picnic even though I only have $10 in my purse.

I'm the sort of person that can be serious, naggy, opinionated and funny in just one conversational sitting. I can be brave, scary and scared all at the same time. They call me unpredictable and spontaneous.

Hmmm...it takes a lifetime to figure out your own personality- you are what you are as you grow and mature.

And that's not it. What truly dictates you are your personal set of values.

Values that sets you up for life- trustworthyness, truthful (honest) hardworking, dependability, courage, compassionate, loyalty, empathy and accountability.

Finding your voice to me is communicating your values the way that you are, according to your personality traits. 

These are my two cents worth. Maybe, you'll have your own take on it. Well, leave your comments below.


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This is a light- hearted take on life, not an in-depth discussion, and certainly it's not meant to ridicule other people's perspective. I've come out from the deepest end in life and I know what it feels like to be in bad situations.
Read my blog post, where I share my personal story and decide to be my own hero.

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